Esoterics help hyperactivity. Proper help for hyperactive children! advice from doctors. What can a teacher do

Learn more about what and how happens at the moment of death. The man died. During the ceremony, when it is taken out of the house, first of all the stools are taken out, which are placed in the yard, or as now - in front of the entrance, then the coffin is taken out, then the lid is taken out, then fresh flowers are taken out, and only LAST ARE THE WREATHS CARRYED OUT. RELATIVES NEVER GO AHEAD OF THE COFFIN, I.E. AHEAD OF THE DECEASED. It’s the same thing later, when they put on a hearse, on a car, on a cart: first they carry stools, then the coffin, then the lid, then fresh flowers, then wreaths. Then everyone sat down and went to the churchyard. If it’s all in the area, in a village, in a countryside, and there’s a churchyard, a cemetery nearby, then they carry it in their hands, and if it’s far away, then they carry it on a cart, on transport. Previously, the deceased was buried in the grave only with their hands. Those. everyone came up, took earth from the pile and threw it. Where did this come from? This came from our Ancestors, i.e. after the body was cremated on Kroda, the body burned, and the ashes were collected in the house, in the house, but now it is called an urn, where the ashes are put. The bones, if they remained, then they also turned to dust, and the remaining ashes scattered over the fields of this Family. That’s why they said that this land would be defended to the last drop of blood, because it was watered with sweat, blood and ashes (dust) of the Ancestors. Next, we made an urn. As a rule, our Ancestors set up a table, and all relatives had to attend the funeral, from all the Clans and Tribes that were related, and everyone threw a handful. And just imagine, a table, there is a platform on it, there are four pillars on the platform, an urn, or a house, is placed there, a firebox is lit next to it, and things are laid out. I’m not talking about a log house now, I’m talking about a pure mound with ashes. If this is a warrior, then this is a sword, and everything he needs for the next life is tied to a post with ribbons, or simply folded. Further. The lid was placed on these four pillars. And on top there was a white board, it went down below the foot of this square on which the house stands. He was closing. And what did all the relatives do? They took a handful of earth and threw it, and the result was a mound that completely hid all the utensils and everything that had been donated. As a rule, a memorial stone was placed next to the mound, or at the top. But these mounds were made in a churchyard, and Kummir Roda was nearby. And the skull, with denser bone there, which remained after cremation, was laid next to other skulls near this mound. There was a fire burning there, and demands and gifts were brought into the fire. And nearby, if it was a warrior, a lists and funeral feast were held. Those. warriors showed in fights, as it were, past battles in which he participated, i.e. The gods were shown how he defeated his enemies. Those. you could say it was a type of theatrical performance. And at the same time his sons, children, and from other neighboring communities participated. Then tables were set there and they commemorated the deceased, saying only good things about him. If a boat was made, then everything necessary was placed on the boat, which it was believed that he would need in his subsequent life. And in ancient times it was still the case that he would enter a rook, let’s say he raised all his children, all his children had families, and his wife would enter this rook and remain with her husband. But when the boat set off along the river, there were archers with lighted arrows, with which they set fire to this boat, and she, as if with her husband, went on this fiery boat to Svarga. If he had small children, then his wife had to stay with the children. But at will, let’s say it was that he was married, but someone liked him, then any woman or girl could board the boat instead of his wife, so that the deceased would not be bored waiting, but it was all voluntary, and thus go off to the upper world as an accompaniment. But after the Hindus saw these rituals, life does not end, especially since the woman was prepared and given a special drink, and for her all this happened painlessly. And among the Hindus, who used to hide their dead in stone caves, i.e. They walled up the bodies, and when they saw how among the Aryans the women themselves ascended the funeral pyre or onto the boat, they introduced this in their own country, in order to become like the white Creator Gods. Those. in this form: The husband has died, and the wife is obliged to go to the funeral pyre. Christians brought the ritual of burial to our lands, but we did not have this burial, but only cremation, because the commandments said that you cannot desecrate the land of your Ancestors with your decay. Because corpse decomposition, corpse poison, it destroys the earth. And there were, as a rule, few relatives at the burial, because Christians were against people remembering the entire genealogy of their Ancestors. Those. father and mother, well, even grandfather and grandmother, they still allowed us to remember, but the rest, it seems, are not necessary - anyway, everything is before God. And there are already ministers with shovels, but at the same time, THE SPADES, WHEN THEY ARE BURIED IN A CEMETERY, CANNOT BE TRANSFERRED FROM HANDS TO HANDS, i.e. a man buries a grave, is tired, he must stick a shovel into the ground and move away. And another one comes up, takes it and continues to bury it. What happens to the Soul itself? On the ninth day, the silver thread of connection between the Soul and the body is interrupted, and the Soul rises up and describes a figure eight around the Earth and the Moon (Fig. 41), and here at point “A”, how the atmospheric order, I mean, the layers of the atmosphere, they are perceived in the form of a man, like a river separating two worlds. Catholics call this ball “A” Purgatory, our Ancestors call it the City of Light or the Solar City, some call it the invisible echo of the Earth, or Planet number seven, i.e. for different peoples it is different. And so the Soul gets here to “A” and stays there, receiving answers to all its questions that interested it during life, and stays there for up to 40 days. But forty days 40 is a month for us, for us living on Earth. And there time can pass either as one day or as a thousand years. Those. It's already a little different time there. But for us, a month has passed. And after a month and 40 days have passed, after a person has received answers to all his questions, where he goes through three trials. The first is the Court of Conscience, when a person is judged by his own Conscience, i.e. he judges a person himself, he himself will be his own defendant, and prosecutor, and lawyer, and judge, but this court is called the most terrible court. Why? Because no one will judge you, more terrible and stricter than you, and you will never be able to deceive yourself, because only you know how it really was, and what happened exactly this way and not otherwise. The second court is the Court of the Ancestors, it was not for nothing that I said that the Soul meets relatives, it is met by the Ancestors. And a person gives an answer to the Ancestors, holds an answer to the Ancestors, and they ask him: We gave birth to you, and what have you done for the prosperity of our Family, what have you achieved in your creation, to what level of sincerity and spirituality have you risen? Those. what have you achieved? And when a person answers: I fulfilled what you commanded, I did this and that. Then they take him and carry him here - to the next world (Fig. 41), again to a new earth, but there already, if he goes to a harmonious world, then this is a world of 16 dimensions, the so-called World of Legs, where a person continues life develops, and then - the World of Arlegs, etc. And if the Ancestors ask him: Why didn’t you do such and such? And he answers: And I died in battle. Those. defending Rod. In this case, if he has a little work left to do there, then they can immediately take him to the new Earth, to the next World, a more multidimensional one. But if there is still a lot left unfulfilled, then the Goddess Karna comes into force. And she allows him to return to Earth again, and then we observe the phenomenon of reincarnation. There is another option - Karna’s husband God Varuna, who gives the opportunity to a deceased person to return and finish what he did not have time to finish. In one case, God Varuna sends his assistant to bring back, so we even have the festival of Raven Varuna Day. Varun returns the Soul, and then the person is said to have returned from a coma, i.e. from a comatose state or lethargic sleep, and he continues life, but he has already seemed to have changed. By the way, based on this ancient legend that God Varuna sends the Raven, the film “The Raven” was shot, however, in English, when the hero returns to bring everything into line, punish the guilty, etc., but everything is a little exaggerated there . Remember Vasily Ivanovich Chapaev’s favorite song: “Black Raven, why are you hovering over my head? You won't get any spoils. I am not your black raven” i.e. even in these songs there is a legend, a tradition that Varuna and Karna send the Raven. And notice, in all fairy tales, the raven is a prophetic bird, it gives the opportunity to Souls, what? Return to Earth again and incarnate. But not just Souls, because... Raven is Varuna’s assistant, and Raven, like a wise bird, prophesying, at his own request, helped another God, who brought warriors back to life. And this God’s name was Odin. But note, the Soul will enter the World of Glory, the 16-dimensional World. But on the way from the City of Light to the World of Glory there is one more intermediate link, there is, as it were, an invisible orbit that preserves the Midgard system of the Earth. And the invisible Earth seems to revolve around it, i.e. she is in another dimension. And there on this Earth another God reigns, his name is Volkh. And on this invisible Earth, there is an abode of warriors, the so-called Security Watchtower, which is called Volhala. But many people pronounce it incorrectly: Volgala. Volhala. Khol is like a hall, and Volkh is the son of the Mother of the Raw Earth. Here she is - Mother of Cheese Earth, i.e. like the Heavenly Host that protects the Earth. But it protects it not in our four dimensions, but in others, so that from there, in those dimensions, dark forces cannot penetrate to Earth. For Catholics, this is system “A” - Sunny City. It is Purgatory, where judgment takes place, as Catholics say, from where a person goes further to the Abode of God, as they call the World of Glory, either he goes from “A” to the Galactic East, or he goes to hell, or even down (Fig. 41), i.e. from “A” you can end up in several types of hell. Some say that everyone has their own hell. Our Ancestors, just like the Scandinavians, called the lower World Hal. In the English language it remains like hell - the underworld. Therefore, helizer is like hellraisers, hellins, i.e. come from hell. But notice, when you get here to Hal, or Hades, to hell, it’s not for nothing that they say: There are nine circles of hell, there are nine planes, they don’t get there forever, but they are given the opportunity to realize, work out and rise, and again to higher level. But you can slide even lower, but still no one forbids you to correct yourself and return to “A” - Sunny City, and then go to the World of Glory. And from here, from the World of Glory, the Soul enters the Rule, and there it continues to develop. And the information that this Soul has accumulated again goes to the Goddess Jiva. And this new information will fall into the matrix for the new Soul. And they are already coming into the world, into an already more developed system, and already prepared, more developed. Because knowledge from all living beings of the Light World and partial information from those who rose from the Dark World about the inhabitants of the Dark World. But since the information is partial, it means that it is not complete. Those. There is information about higher forms, but about lower ones it is either not there or not enough. Therefore, our Ancestors - the Slavs and Aryans, they never personified evil, and did not even talk about it. Even the fact that they are trying to write Chernobog into Satan is the clerks of Belobog and Chernobog. Chernobog, in order not to follow the path of spiritual development, he wanted to gain knowledge of a higher world, and for this, what did he do? He opened the knowledge of his world to the worlds below, so that, according to the law of correspondence, the Upper worlds were opened, and he received knowledge. And Belobog covered up this matter, especially since the dark ones came to Chernobog’s call. This is described in the Charatia of Light. Therefore, knowledge from the Higher world penetrated into the lower ones. But there Spiritual knowledge was, as it were, ignored, and mainly technological knowledge, or technocratic systems, were mastered. And a person, rising to Prav, goes to Jiva, and through it, rising through the levels of Prav, a person can sooner or later achieve the state of Ramha Awareness. What is Ramha? This could take billions of Earth years. Many people ask: So what? Is this the end of the process? No. Remember the Book of Light: Before the birth of everything there was only one Great Ramha. Those. he was without incarnating. He manifested himself into a new reality and... into a new boundless infinity he was illuminated with the light of joy. This means that if he manifested himself into a new reality, it means that somewhere there is an old reality. Those. Having realized the state of Ramha, you can penetrate into the old reality and develop there further. Those. This once again tells us that life in all its diversity is endless. In addition, in these harmonious Worlds of Glory - 16-dimensional, 256-dimensional, 56536, etc., the opportunity is given that if a person on Midgard - Earth has started some kind of business, then who will forbid him to descend again into the lower world, and come here as a wanderer, a mentor? Those. he still has descendants, and so that the Family does not perish, especially the Family, they multiply, he can come into this world, but, being in a four-dimensional system, remaining multidimensional, he broadcasts, and many do not understand, so he speaks in images and parables. And such people were called Prophets, Saints, Prophets, Messengers of God, i.e. Jesus, Krishna incarnated, etc. I.e. they could already in their own, once 16-dimensional World, the World of Legs, and they are perceived as angels descending from heaven. Those. they are already in a different form. When a person comes to the World of Glory, there God is the Patron of the Family. Remember, part 1 of the matrix zone was given by Jiva, and part of zone 2 was given by the Patron of the Family. And he manifests himself here, in the World of Glory, and asks: Why did I send you? I showed you the goal in life, your path? What did you do for this? The third judgment is the judgment of the patron God. Those. whether you are fit to be a creator or not. Don’t forget, we don’t just come here to fulfill the will of someone, Jiva, or the Patron God, or our Ancestors - Heavenly Parents. We come into this world to become Creators - Creators. Each of you, as a small child, imagined a World more beautiful than the current one. There was no evil, no violence. When you grew up and became older, boys and girls already had, let’s say, union associations, i.e. prototypes of creating a family, and imagined: How would I live in a family with this or that girl, or with this or that guy? But all this was imagined as if you were on a desert island, where there is no evil, violence, etc. what was created in prototypes, thought tends to materialize. And you, starting from childhood, have already begun to create your own Universe. And moving along the path from the Sunny City to the World of Glory, you still think that in this case I would have acted or done this, i.e. Thus, you work out for yourself the laws of creation, the laws of life, i.e. what would you do in this situation. Those. Not only do you create, you create, you also establish the laws of the Universe that are acceptable for your life system, which you came up with earlier. Moving from the World of Glory to the World of Rule, we are all learning to create in the multidimensional world, each time adding something, something and something, and plus, since this is a harmonious, bright and pure World, it means that what is present? Kindness, understanding, mutual assistance, love, who do we become? We all become full-fledged Gods and Goddesses - creators who first represent a cozy corner, then this is an island, then this is a city, then this is a country, then this is the Earth, then this is the Universe. And each of us creates our own Universe, and the Universes, like cabbage leaves, are layered, projections, and the Worlds become larger each time. And a person reaches Glory, and then goes to Prav, where he already works and creates, creates his own Universe - that harmonious world that he creates for himself.

I love working with children and they are great at regression. Many of them—indeed, many—still have conscious memories of past lives, and children will be happy to tell you about them if you ask with genuine interest, “Who were you before?” They have just recently come from the Other Side and have not yet realized that talking about past lives is not accepted here. And, of course, they don't know that there are people who don't believe in past lives. Once children learn to express themselves coherently, they can tell a lot about where they have been, what they have experienced, who they have met in the past, and what the Other Side is like. But we foolishly often dismiss such stories as fiction. And before children learn to speak, we can greatly help them - especially while they are sleeping and their ageless superconscious mind is awake - we only need to whisper to them so that they surrender all the pain and negativity of past lives to the white light of the Holy Spirit.

When Jay was referred to me, his pediatrician said that he could not find any objective reasons for the boy's hyperactivity and breathing problems. Jay was an exceptionally smart, friendly and good-natured child. However, his illness caused nightmares, terror attacks, inability to concentrate and problems with discipline at school. The pediatrician conducted all possible tests, referred the boy to child psychiatrists, and tried various medications and non-drug treatments. The doctor did not tell me that I was their “last hope,” but we were good friends, and such words would not have offended me. The main thing is that he finally dialed my number and asked for help.

Jay really turned out to be an unusually cute, kind, smart and inquisitive child with a wonderful sense of humor. The boy was interested in everything in the office - he was especially delighted by the drawings of my grandchildren. He wanted to know more about them. Like an old man addressing someone his own age, he admitted: “I really love children, and you?” When I asked if he was happy, Jay replied: “I want to be happy.” It is impossible to even imagine a more receptive client to hypnosis - his openness was already evident in how easily he entered into a trance. I told the boy to find an entry point to his problems, and I couldn’t help but smile when he simply, readily answered: “I’ll find it now.”

The child immediately began talking about life in South Carolina. He was a man married to “a big woman named Anna. She is very good". They had twelve children, and Jay worked a lot on the ranch - he bred horses. He loved children and felt great in their noisy, active and carefree company - he especially liked it when they all gathered at the table in the evening or went to church on Sundays. But then Jay was called “to war.” He didn't want to leave his family. He longed for their friendly, simple life in advance and was afraid that he would never return home again. Jay was assigned as a sailor on a naval ship, and he always carried a photograph of his wife and children in his shirt pocket. Soon their ship got into a naval battle. Jay died instantly: a “piece of iron” broke his throat.

Jay then remembered life in Denmark. He was a married farmer and mother of ten children. While talking about his family, Jay began to chuckle quietly. I asked him what was the matter. The boy said that he recognized his current mother in the Naughty Child himself, and he was amused because now it was her turn to try to rein him in. When the Danish woman was only thirty-four years old, she died of pneumonia. Jay recalled how the woman lay alone in the room and listened to the children's fuss outside the bedroom door. Their life goes on, they need a mother, but she no longer has the strength to be one...

Jay listened very carefully to all my explanations. I told him that the cells in his body remember those two past lives, and that is why he has difficulty breathing in this life.

As for hyperactivity, he is used to large, noisy families with many children. However, he had to part with such families twice for reasons beyond his control. In this life, Jay is an only child, and the more noise and chaos he creates, the more confident he feels. This behavior allows him to get rid of the disappointment of past lives that he left without being ready for this.

I called Jay's parents a week later to ask them how things were going. Mother and father vied with each other to tell me that the breathing problems had disappeared after our session, and the teacher called from school and asked if the boy was taking new pills, since he became calmer and more focused than before.

Six months after that, we talked about the boy with the pediatrician who referred him to me. Not only did the child’s breathing problems completely disappear, but throughout the entire winter he never even had a runny nose. The pediatrician canceled the course of medication previously prescribed to Jay. It turned out that the boy can perfectly control his behavior himself. His mother says that his performance at school has also improved noticeably: if previously he got bad grades, in the last quarter he only got fours and one bad grade.

I don’t know what you did... - the pediatrician began.

But it worked,” I finished for him.

What is the diagnosis of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) most often confused with? Can untreated hyperactivity in childhood really ruin a person’s life? And what is the benefit - or harm - of "Indigo children"?

The child was diagnosed with ADHD and prescribed treatment. The mother is trying to understand how to live now and how to build a relationship with him. Shares new information with others. But everyone around them has their own view of the situation. There are many points of view, and they are incompatible with each other. Let's try to deal with each group of beliefs separately.

This point of view is more common than others, and its owner is best left alone. It is almost impossible to convince him. You can carry him special literature, show him diagrams, talk about the frontal lobes, about executive dysfunction, even about the reuptake of neurotransmitters in the synaptic cleft... But for one picture of the world to be replaced in a person’s mind by another, a long time must pass, he must do some... then observations and come to certain conclusions.

The problem with spoiled children is that adults have not set boundaries for acceptable behavior. Once these boundaries are set with the proper amount of seriousness, children's behavior normalizes. In the case of ADHD, the problem is different: even if the child knows perfectly well how to behave and really wants to behave well, he still fails to do so because of his impulsiveness. This does not mean that he does not need to set boundaries - he definitely should!

Hyperactivity is a newfangled fiction

"Where were these kids before?" - people ask, confident that ADHD was invented several years ago. But even before, these children were where they are now: in every class. Everyone, perhaps, can remember one or two hooligans and losers, cool jesters, brawlers and outrageous people. With a high degree of probability, this is exactly what they were.

Moreover, the loser and the bully are a very popular figure in children's literature, described in detail in many works in all their glory. If we analyze our favorite children's books taking into account modern scientific ideas about the nature of school difficulties, we will see there attention deficit, and a reduced level of brain activation, and hyperactivity, and specific learning difficulties, classified, however, as laziness and hooliganism.

The problem of overdiagnosis does exist: the diagnosis of hyperactivity in children is sometimes made not particularly carefully, and sometimes even unprofessionally. You often hear something like “the diagnosis was made by a doctor during a school medical examination” or “psychologists came to the school, tested, diagnosed.”

This is a violation of the normal diagnostic procedure, which requires filling out multi-page questionnaires, carefully collecting anamnesis, and talking with the teacher. Doctors who take diagnosis seriously spend several hours just talking with parents.

A psychologist cannot “diagnose” anything. The teacher - even more so. A psychologist can describe the problem to the parent, suggest what it may be related to, and advise them to see a doctor.

The doctor does not diagnose “ADHD” on the basis of a five-minute examination of the child during a school medical examination, and he also cannot diagnose it in the fifteen minutes allotted for his appointment at the clinic.

In addition, there is no officially accepted protocol for diagnosing ADHD in the country. In the meantime, the problem of overdiagnosis will not go away. However, if someone is diagnosed with ADHD illiterately, this does not mean that such a disorder does not exist.

The question of who is more affected by ADHD - the child or those around him - is not as simple as it seems. Indeed, such manifestations of a child exhaust adults and lead them to exhaustion, especially if it is hyperactivity in younger preschoolers.

But it’s not easy for children either. A study published by the journal Advances in Medical Sciences in 2009 shows that children with ADHD are almost twice as likely injury rate(sprains, open wounds of the head, neck, body and limbs, as well as fractures of the limbs are especially common). The risk of serious injury (skull fracture, neck fracture, spine fracture, skull fracture and brain damage, nerve damage and spinal cord damage) is three times higher with ADHD.

With severe forms of hyperactivity and inattention, some children even develop pedagogical neglect- this is with normal intelligence and loving, attentive parents! Just in order for a child to sit down to listen to a book, learn colors, and begin to understand letters and numbers, he must concentrate. But he cannot do this under normal conditions, and it would be good if parents or teachers can come up with methods to capture his unstable attention and make the most of the few minutes that they have.

Common in ADHD problems with social skills: children understand the rules of behavior with peers less well, jokes, have a harder time understanding gestures and facial expressions, react too impulsively, are too impatient, do not follow turns, like to give commands that are not relevant. Sooner or later, many such children find themselves without friends, and this already interferes with their lives personally, and not at all with adults.

Inattention, chaos, and disorganization also create problems for themselves: it is very difficult to study, it is impossible to cope with such simple matters as maintaining minimal order in their things and affairs without outside help. It’s even harder when these features lead to conflicts with others. The manifestations of ADHD themselves are not as severe as their consequence - social maladjustment.

Many studies show that the social cost of ADHD if a child does not receive timely help is very high. Most children who grow up continue to have the disorder into adulthood.(Researcher Russell Barkley believes that in reality, only 20-35% of adults outgrow their ADHD).

Many children with ADHD develop more serious problems (antisocial behavior, learning disabilities, low self-esteem, depression), and in 5-10% of cases, more severe diagnoses (bipolar affective disorder, antisocial behavior disorder).

10-25% abuse alcohol and psychoactive substances. 25-36% do not finish school. People with ADHD have difficulty adapting to new jobs, and the jobs they find often do not match their level of education and qualifications. They change jobs more often, usually because they are bored or because of conflicts. They have more problems in relationships with friends and lovers, and a higher level of family conflicts and divorces. The rate of traffic violations is higher, there are more accidents - and these accidents are more serious.

Some radical parents demand that society adapt itself to children. Ideally, of course, the movement towards each other should be two-way. But if society does not move towards the child, we must not only work to change society, but also help the child survive in the society that exists.

In the mid-2000s, the concept of “Indigo Children”, which is set out in the book of the same name by Americans Jen Tober and Lee Carroll, became widespread among parents of complex children. Its supporters are convinced that children with ADHD are actually a new stage in the development of humanity: children are especially gifted, brilliant, they are simply bored at school, and they need a different, non-repressive pedagogy.

This concept is entirely religious, esoteric, adjacent to the ideas of the occult movement New Age (New Era). To take it on faith or not is a matter of personal worldview. The scientific value of the concept is zero; the main ideas are of mainly religious interest.

The story of the appearance of the “Indigo Children” goes something like this: Lee Carroll, a businessman selling radio equipment, in 1989, according to him, came into contact with an alien entity named Kryon. Krion began to dictate messages to him. Then Carroll’s followers, who call themselves “lightworkers,” began to gather for dictation sessions. Krion dictated to Carroll a lot of various information on saving humanity, including mentioning that shifts are expected in human DNA, and humanity will evolve further. Indigo children, according to the beliefs of “lightworkers,” are the next link in human evolution: the book says that their DNA is structured differently (which is completely absurd from a genetic point of view).

The book announced that a new generation of children had come into the world. Now 90% of them are born (that is, 10% remain standard). They are named indigo because clairvoyant Nancy Ann Tepp saw a bright blue color (indigo) in their aura. For some, this is already enough to put the book aside forever - usually these are people with rational, scientific thinking.

But if a person loves the unusual, the occult, the esoteric and at the same time has an inattentive, hyperactive child, the book will sink deeply into his soul. It specifically points out that wise souls are often mistakenly diagnosed with ADHD and treated instead of being raised as kings, gods and geniuses should be raised. As one mother of a child with ADHD told me, “I would rather consider his actions to be a manifestation of genius than the antics of an idiot.”

The book “Indigo Children” contains the idea that children do not need to be raised, they already know and understand everything; they just need to be guided. For confused parents who find themselves in difficult educational situations, this sounds like news of salvation: there is no need to invent anything, you need to trust the child, he knows everything himself.

But ultimately, this results in shifting the choice and responsibility for the choice onto the child, who is not yet ready to make it. So the authors had to make an amendment - set boundaries, do not allow permissiveness. Some people have long known this old law of pedagogy, but for others, in order for simple thoughts to penetrate into consciousness, they need news from space, aura vision and the promise of a ready-made genius at the exit.

The sound concept is that the child is a unique individual, talented and deserving of respect; the child has great potential that needs to be developed; treating a child as “sick” or “defective” can ruin a lot.

I encountered the problem of childhood hyperactivity while in the USA. My emigrant lover introduced me to his children from his divorce from an American. All the children were in diapers (3, 6 and 8 years old), and the youngest constantly sucked on a pacifier. The children could not eat at the table: they would put a piece in their mouth and then run around the room and lie on the floor.

The children did not respond to their names. Their games were also somewhat meaningless: racing around the house, pushing each other until they cried. Most of the time the children watched TV and fought in front of it.

A boy aged 8 years 6 months was on tablets for “attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder”. When he was on the pills, he retired alone to the room, quietly read a book, and did not play pranks. When they forgot to give the pill, he behaved the same way as his sisters - like a small animal. The pills caused him stomach pain, poor appetite, dizziness, and hallucinations at night: he heard screams and saw monsters. He couldn't sleep without light. From the age of 5, his mother regularly took him to psychotherapy.

As their father said, the children were raised by nannies, since the family was rich, and the mother took care of herself. Over the next three months, during the children's visits to their father, I taught them how to go to the toilet. And then she advised me to take the boy off the pills, since, according to my observations, he was absolutely healthy. All his illnesses indicated in the medical record, such as urinary and fecal incontinence, hyperactivity, were direct consequences of his upbringing.

The father exercised his parental rights and prohibited further treatment of his son.

Exactly a month later, a subpoena arrived: the mother was suing to place her son again in psychiatric treatment. And, as one would expect, the protection of the child fell on me. The lawyers only agreed to go to meetings, because they said that not a single judge would go against psychiatrists. But the psychiatrists did not listen to my father - they needed a patient, not a healthy child.

But my good Russian education worked here. First, I pulled up all the government documents with data on child mortality from psychotropic drugs. Everything is on the Internet. All of these drugs are no less than part of the cocaine group and hook a child on drugs.

Secondly, I found the entire medical history of the child and transcribed all the records. And then she showed that all the tests that the child received from psychiatrists were passed with flying colors, but the doctors paid attention not to them, but to the mother’s complaints.

Every school record and grade was analyzed by me. I filmed and documented all witness statements. As a result, after a year of struggle, contrary to established practice, the judge issued a verdict against the mother and against the psychiatrists.

Currently, the child is completely healthy and trained in the rules of behavior.

“Hyperactivity” and “attention deficit” of children are actually just passivity and lack of attention of parents to children. TV and electronic games give children impulses to action while they remain sitting on the sofa, unspent physical energy accumulates. The child throws it out afterwards.

Lack of discipline preserves wildness in children: they scream in supermarkets, chase non-stop, etc. And the absence of a parent in their worries and affairs makes children unfilled, empty.

Don't be afraid to raise children! Don't poison them with Ritalin, Concerta and other garbage. Fictional illnesses are an excuse for parental irresponsibility. The generation of Americans raised on pills is like zombies. Their brain connections were destroyed by pills at a tender age. Devastated, disobedient to themselves, children slide into depression. And then they try to lift their mood with drugs that they have already been accustomed to since childhood in the form of mood regulators. Don't succumb to this infection, Russians, don't kill your children!

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From personal experience…….

Does everyone know what hyper muscle tone and hyper excitability are? So there is one simplest way to treat these conditions in children (it is also possible in adults). It’s just that these children have a terrible deficit of tactile affectionate sensations and a deficit of calm, loving and supportive communication. The recipe is as simple as two plus two! Hug and pet children often. Engage in more communication with your child, play a variety of games with him, especially those games that require tactile contact. And you will be surprised how quickly your hyperactive baby will relax, how the muscles twisted into knots and ropes will begin to disappear, how the psyche and sleep will gradually recover; in general, you simply won’t recognize your child, because... He (the child), instead of grief and difficulties, will bring you joy, and his smiles, instead of tears or roars.

Ps: Everything ingenious is simple!

Why children are restless: and what we can do about it

A complete stranger pours out his soul to me over the phone. She complains that her six-year-old son cannot sit still when he is in class. The school wants to test him for ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder). This is so familiar, I thought to myself. As a practicing pediatrician, I have noticed one common problem these days.

A mother complains that her son comes home every day with a yellow smile sticker (grading system in some schools in the USA, Canada, etc. - translator's note) The rest of the children come home with green stickers for good behavior. Every day this child is reminded that his behavior is unacceptable simply because he cannot sit still for long periods of time.

Mom starts crying. “He starts saying things like, 'I hate myself,' and 'I'm good for nothing.' This boy's self-esteem drops sharply because he needs to move much more often.

Over the past ten years, more and more children have been reported to have attention problems and possible ADHD. A local elementary school teacher tells me that at least eight out of twenty-two students have difficulty concentrating on the positive aspects of the day. At the same time, children are expected to be able to sit for longer periods of time. By the way, even children in kindergarten are required to sit for thirty minutes during welcome circle in some schools.

The problem is that kids these days are always upright. And it's quite rare to see a child rolling down a mountain, climbing trees, spinning around just for fun. Carousels and rocking chairs are things of the past.

Holidays and breaks have become shorter due to increased academic demands, children rarely play outside due to parental fears, responsibilities and the hectic schedules of modern society. Let's face it: babies don't move enough for them and it really becomes a problem.

Most recently, I observed a fifth grade class at the request of the teacher. I quietly entered and sat down on the last desk. The teacher read a book to the children and this continued until the end of the lesson. I've never seen anything like it. Children swung in their chairs to an extremely dangerous angle, some swayed their bodies back and forth, some chewed the ends of their pencils, and one child tapped a water bottle on his forehead in a rhythm.

This was not a class for special children, a typical class in a popular art school. At first I thought that perhaps the children were restless because it was already the end of the day and they were simply tired. Even though this may have been part of the problem, there was, of course, another, deeper reason.

We quickly found out after some tests that most of the children in the class had difficulty coordinating their movements. By the way, we tested several other classes from the early 80s, where only one out of twelve children had normal motor coordination. Only one! Oh my God, I thought. These kids need to move!

Paradoxically, many children around have an underdeveloped vestibular apparatus due to limited movement. In order to develop it, children need to move their bodies in different directions, sometimes for hours. It's much the same as with playing sports, they have to do it much more often than once a week to get results. In addition, going to football once or twice a week is absolutely not enough to develop a strong sensory system.

Children come to class with bodies less equipped to learn than ever before. With a sensory system that doesn't work as well as it should, they also have to sit still and pay attention. Children naturally become restless because their bodies crave movement and it is not enough for them to simply “get their brains to work.” What happens when babies start to twist and turn? We ask them to sit quietly and concentrate. As a result, their brain begins to “fall asleep.”

Restlessness is a real problem. This is a strong indicator that children are not getting enough movement during the day. Let's sum it up. Vacations and breaks should be extended, and children should play outside as soon as they return from school. Twenty minutes of movement a day is not enough! They need hours of outdoor play to build a healthy sensory system and maintain a high level of attention and learning ability in the classroom.

In order for children to learn, they need to be able to concentrate. In order for them to concentrate, we need to allow them to move.

Angela Hanscom

With the development of science, medical and pharmaceutical business, some conditions that were previously considered “features within the normal range” are becoming curable or at least correctable diseases. This is exactly what a disease is called ADHD.

A little about the history of ADHD and its rediagnosis

The child’s excessive fussiness, inability to concentrate on completing a task, and tendency to rather pointless, superficial communications have always alarmed parents. The reason is simple - these features negatively affect social adaptation, interfere with effective learning, and are not very pleasant in everyday life.

At the beginning of the 20th century, doctors began to pay close attention to this behavior of children. There is every reason to believe that such behavior is not always due to the child’s bad upbringing and promiscuity; sometimes it has chemical and biological reasons. The first to express such a point of view was in 1902 the English physician J. Frederick Still.

Medical research conducted throughout the 20th century provided the basis for the inclusion of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (this is what is hidden behind the repeatedly mentioned abbreviation) in the list of mental disorders (DSM-I).

Due to the fact that perseverance, discipline and obedience among children are not such a common occurrence, many caring parents, having read about ADHD, rushed to the doctors and...... the generous distribution of this diagnosis “right and left” began. Not all doctors have enough time, conscientiousness and qualifications to check for other reasons for such behavior (the notorious improper upbringing, the child’s temperament). In our time of continuous information flows from all sides, in which an adult, not to mention a child, sometimes drowns, problems with concentration can manifest themselves without ADHD; they can simply be a consequence of information overload and lack of self-discipline.

ADHD symptoms

There is no particular debate about the symptoms of ADHD; the disorder manifests itself in:

1. Chronic inattention, as well as an extreme tendency to be distracted (“selective attention deficit”). Note that we are talking about situations where attention is supposed to be “supported”: the child’s activity is not very interesting, but it is useful and necessary, for example, completing educational tasks.
2. Increased physical activity, often aimless (in contrast to simply active children, whose physical activity is quite conscious and occurs in the form of games, exercises, and dancing).
3. Impulsivity. The child has extremely poor self-control: he shouts out an answer without the permission of the teacher or educator, and, obeying a momentary impulse, performs some action “outside the rules.”

The child’s behavior described above may not become a cause for concern until he is 3-4 years old.

However, individual manifestations of these symptoms do not always mean the presence of a disorder in a child. To make a diagnosis, it is necessary that such behavior be “chronic”, pronounced and not be determined by the child’s living conditions. It is optimal if, in parallel with medical and biochemical research, work with a competent child psychologist takes place.

The disorder in question is often accompanied by other problems: tics, phobias, systematic headaches. In such situations, qualified medical care should not be neglected under any circumstances.

Types of ADHD

Frequent confusion with diagnosis is also due to the fact that modern research has made it possible to distinguish two forms of the disorder:

1) ADHD-N, where the existing symptoms are associated specifically with attention deficit, and hyperactivity is not clearly expressed. Children susceptible to this disorder are inhibited, apathetic, and there is no talk of constant excessive motor activity.

2) Combined form with classic manifestations - a combination of attention deficit and often aimless excessive motor activity.

Causes of ADHD

The simplest explanation of ADHD as a disorder can be given using the “4 deficit theory”, that is, this condition is caused by:

1. Attention deficit (difficult to maintain);
2. Difficulty in being able to inhibit (restrain) impulsive behavior;
3. Weakness of modulation of the level of activating influences (a feature of brain functioning);
4. Problems understanding strategic consequences (simply put, people with ADHD have an extreme tendency to expect immediate rewards).

The disease is a consequence of biological characteristics - in some parts of the child’s brain there is a deficiency of dopamine and norepinephrine. The intensity of the manifestations of the disorder depends on the severity of the corresponding features, in most cases it is correctable.

Among the reasons, one can highlight a genetic predisposition (the disorder is often inherited and is observed in several children from the same family at the same time). This issue is not debatable.

There is also evidence of a possible connection between the development of ADHD and perinatal trauma and early childhood trauma and infections.

Treatment of ADHD in modern conditions

If your child is diagnosed with ADHD, treatment should be left in the hands of specialists. The simultaneous presence of drug therapy and psychological correction is considered optimal. Back in the 80s. last century in the Russian Federation, a well-proven method of transcranial micropolarization was developed.

Doctors and psychologists do not hide the fact that correction of the behavior of their parents is essential in case of problems in the behavior of children with such a disorder.

In everyday life, parents of children with ADHD can be given the following recommendations:

1. Use the method of encouraging (rewarding) the child for appropriate behavior as much as possible, and a simple lack of reward will be sufficient punishment for inappropriate behavior. The reward system, of course, is individual and depends on the personal characteristics of the child.
2. Develop a positive model of communication with your child (he is not to blame for his manifestations; punishment in this case will not fix anything).

The positive model means:

• the ability to motivate a child with praise and rewards;
• creating an environment in which the child’s anxiety is minimized;
• optimal daily routine (with time to rest, such a child especially needs it);
• the presence of rules of behavior agreed upon with the child (maximum achievable and understandable to the child), but when demanding their execution, one should be adamant;
• friendly and attentive communication with the child;
• the reaction to mistakes, blunders, bad behavior should not be aggressive, but adequate - correctly express your negative emotions, explaining exactly what the child is wrong about and why this cannot be done.

It is important to eliminate distractions as much as possible from the child’s attention zone (thoughtful environment) and also to correctly plan activities and events, involving the child in this as much as possible. Teaching children with ADHD planning and self-discipline is a time-consuming process, but it is extremely necessary. It is highly desirable that in the daily routine there is time not only for planning, but also for quiet games, as well as water procedures.

In adults, ADHD does not appear “out of nowhere”; it is only possible if, despite the presence of symptoms in childhood, it was not diagnosed, and accordingly, treatment and development of life skills with this disorder were not carried out. Treatment or adjustment (if not particularly severe) is not very different from ADHD diagnosed in childhood, but an adult will have to deal with this on his own.